marrying my future away
After yesterday's traumatic experience of a pupillage application, I began to come up with all sorts of analogies to describe this process. Eventually, I figured this is most like speed-dating, where you go on consecutive "dates" to suss out your options, except that at the end of it, you need to find a partner and make the commitment within a span of few days. Can you imagine that?All the firms are wooing the students, and all the students are waiting to be wooed (in some sense). The students cast out the net, waiting to see which firm will take the bait. A few would call, and then the student would go and meet his/her prospective spouse and they will size each other up to see if they are suitable for each other. If the firm likes what it sees, it makes an offer on the spot. Then the student goes back and considers the offer. A very popular student would get offers from 3 or 4 firms, and he/she has then to decide which firm best suits his/her needs in the long run. Sometimes it's less straightforward. One firm may make an offer first, and if the student is afraid that he/she might be left on the shelf with no other prospective suitors making similar offers, he/she may take the first one that comes. Then it's too late to regret when other more attractive firms make the call later. It's like marrying your future away. It's commitment without given the chance to fully assess your options. Sigh.
Life is full of what-ifs. What if I hadn't said yes so early? What if someone better comes along? What if I made the wrong choice? What if I regret? I realised it's all about timing. If someone responds to your whims first, then naturally both will end up together. If you had your eye on someone else earlier, but the person took too long to respond favourably, it's just a lost chance. You've made the commitment already, you shouldn't regret.
At least this is only pupillage. It's not marriage.
posted by solitude @ 10:00 PM
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